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I wonder whether any of you guys consider this as an X-rated topic. However, this is something that has become an area of core interest for page3 news, psychologists, socialists and almost all of us. Meaning? This is 2006, and we are still in the grey about it. A few months back, I and one of my colleagues were returning home together from office. On the railway station, we noticed two guys. One of them had his hand around his friend's waist. They were walking in a manner, which made my friend giggle. Obviously, you people must have guessed the implications in this case. It was presumed that perhaps, the two guys were not 'straight.' I have no idea whether they were 'normal' or not. But it is apparent that we look at 'them' as alien species. Homosexuality is not a new phenomenon. It was seen and heard of during the ancient times; not only in Greek and Italian society, but also in the Indian society. There are references to homosexuality even in the Bible. The only thing is that, with the overpowering presence of media and newspapers today, this topic is one of the most talked about issues. But what does homosexuality mean in the first place? Many people consider it to be an abnormality and some think of it as a disease. One might be amused to know the kind the definitions that some people come up with, while discussing this issue. I remember one of my friends narrating to me, a hilarious episode that happened during an engineering fest. She represented her college in one of the debates in the fest, the topic was-whether homosexuality is unnatural or not. While listening to her, I realized how ludicrous people could be at times when they try to argue about an issue like this. My friend told me that many participants did not know what homosexuality is. One of them went on to discuss trees, flowers and other aspects of floral species. He was mainly stressing on the fact that plants are capable of asexual reproduction. He also spoke on how hermaphrodites reproduce (probably he thought he was speaking in favour of homosexuality). He went on speaking about vegetative reproduction, until he was told that he was discussing asexual reproduction and not homosexuality. Another participant, who was also speaking in favour of homosexuality, tried to apply laws of physics to exemplify his point. He said,"My friends, like poles attract...." After starting with this line, he went on to give long sermons on how people should treat homosexuals. Finally when he ended his speech, the first question shot up to him was-"Do like poles attract? Are you sure that is what you have learnt in Physics?" The speaker suddenly appeared embarrassed and started surfing nervously through his speech papers and muttered, "Oh..Did I say so?" People who were speaking against homosexuality were more aggressive in demonstrating their argument. One of them made bombastic and melodramatic statements, cursing homosexuals for their orientation. He utilized excessive doses of rhetoric to emphasize his point. He spoke,"People, homosexuality is a bane and a sin on the face of this earth. People indulging in these kinds of interactions are the most cursed and immoral beings living on this planet." "Do you know what is the basic difference between man and animals? Man was created erect and animals were not. Therefore, man uses his brain in most of the matters and animals do not. Since man knows the difference between himself and animals, therefore he understands what is right and what is wrong. We as humans, know that homosexuality is unnatural; therefore, one should condemn homosexual practices at all costs," he added. His excessive efforts paid off as a certain section of the crowd cheered him. However, there are a few points that many of us might have wanted to ask him. For example, how does an erect body structure lead to brains? Another important point-Was man actually created erect? Maybe he should have looked at Darwin's,'Origin of Species' before coming up with such arguments. Anyways, when it was pointed out to him that man has his origin in apes, (who were not erect as he said), he replied,"Yes, maybe he was not created erect, but being intellectual, man learnt how to be erect. Therefore, he is different from animals and knows homosexuality is not right." The query remains-"How does an erect physical structure lead to brains?" If one chooses to call homosexuality unnatural based on their 'superior scientific understanding', then at least they should sound rational. I hope that's not too much to expect from a batch of engineering students, who are by the way, a kind of 'hallmark' for scientific bend of minds in a country like India. One girl had an interesting theory to explain why she thought homosexuality is unnatural and she attributed it to certain chromosomal disorders. Since I am not a science student, I do not remember the exact reasons that she brought up, but the main crux of her speech was that when a woman conceives, it is the man whose chromosomes lead to determine the sex of the child (as all of us know). However, due to certain chromosomal disorders, it is possible that at times a child will have inclinations that belong to the opposite sex. For example, under such conditions, a male child might think more like a female and tend to behave like one as well. We call such men 'feminine men.' Since they have an attitude and behavioral traits of a woman, they tend to feel attraction for men. I never spoke about people who think of loving someone from one's gender is a 'disease'. A few months ago, I was surfing through the personal-problems column in some magazine. There, a young boy wanted advice. He said that he was a young student living in a boys hostel. He was normal in all aspects except for one thing. He was infatuated by his roommate. He felt his roommate had everything that he desired in his life partner. No girl ever felt so perfect as his roomie. However, he did not have the courage to admit his obsession to his crush, because of obvious reasons. He ended his question in the column by saying that he had never felt this way for another guy. Was this normal? I will not label such a case as a disease or an abnormality. Companionship might often strike us when we least expect it, in a gift-wrap completely different from the kind we expect. But the issue is way more complex. Homosexuality is a crime punishable by law in India. Is it justified?

Hola Amrita!

Wow! this post is a bit surprising for me... not so much because of the subject or your point of view, but because it's been a long time since (luckily, in my opinion)I've had to deal with what homosexuals are or are not...

First, you must consider that I currently live in one of the few countries (Spain, for anyone reading comments) where homosexual marriage is already legal; second, I've always been a very liberal guy in terms of whatever anyone chooses as a sexual orientation; and last, but not least, I've got so many friends who are either gays or lesbians that I hardly ever think about that "normality" or "unnatural" issue you mention in your posts...

I know that in conservative societies (I know, I grew up in one), homosexuality is always a topic that will lead to discussion, but believe me, if you ever become friend of an homosexual you will see there is absolutely nothing different from the way a friendship with an heterosexual would be... and you'll conclude what's logical: (aside from their sexual preferences) homosexuals can be just as normal or weird as anyone else can be.

Based on my personal experience, what can I tell you about why they are gays or why they are lesbians?... Not much really that makes "scientific" sense really... And I know my "homo" friends don't worry much about that either... It's something that just happens... They just feel attracted to people of the same sex; or sometimes they are even bisexual.

As an heterosexual, should I feel threatened if a gay guy approaches me? I don't think so. For me it's ridiculous, even if I detect a flirting intention... Because if that were the case, and I got annoyed by that action, shouldn't I just feel as threatened when a girl tries to flirt with me?

Put cultural, religious and social factors aside, leaving only the sexual (attraction, pleasure or desire) part on the discussion, and I don't think there really is one single reason why anyone could not enjoy a pleasant sexual relation with someone of the same gender.  

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Hi! You have a very good-looking blog. Wish I had a template like this: it is in sync with the freedom of expression. Haven't read the contents yet, but will do that soon and come back often.  

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A friend of mine was once put with a question by lecturer, which briefly put relating to this discussion of yours was: "Do you condone or condemn this kind of behaviour?"

Fortunately (hehe, for his own sake I must add), he couldn't answer that question.

But if I were to have been put with that very inquiry, I'd have said: neither - it's a matter of freedom, and freedom of choice, that, we as onlookers, haven't any right to either condemn or condone. To me, it's unlawful to condemn something that doesn't bring me, or others around me - be it in a little circle, or the world alike - any hurt of any kind.  

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PS: on a side note: your post certainly did make me laugh out loud!  

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hey amrita, good to see u back at blogging! :)..btw, sent u the latest alvibest issue to your yahoo id! do check it out! :)  

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very interesting writeup...  

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very interesting writeup...  

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couldn't agree more with mrgonsings...ours is a conservative society but i am sure that it'll take only a few more years when we'll find people accepting homosexuality as a normal thing...ur blog and various such platforms discuss this issue and in my opinion this is a real good sign...btw gud to see u blogging after more than a month...  

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They should be left to do their own thing just as we do when we choose a career. Let them do what they want as long as they don't force anyone to join them and these things cannot be done by force anyway.  

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Thanks for visiting my blog Amrita.

Third Eye - Its not something Investigative(!) but its just for seeing things creatively.
As for 1.618, I'll have to change the template I guess, 'coz lots have told me that it takes a lot of time to load. I'll try to optimize it.  

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hi guys,

i really could not detect that this post has received so many comments, because my front page is showing no comments for thispost. thanks for all those views, and sorry for the delay in replying to all your views.

Gonsings,

that was a really cool analysis of topic. since u have had a first hand experience of meeting people who are homosexuals, u must be a havinga very transparent view about this entire matter.

i completely agree on your point about homosexuals not being any different from heterosexuals, though sometimes they are steroetyped as feminine. but i guess i have already suggested one reason behind a 'feminine' man's behaviour.

the scientific reason behind homosexual behaviour is just one view point that was put up by one person. i am sure, that should not be a reason for homosexuals to bother about. on the whole, if u ask me, i also believe that it is matter of personal preferences.

hi reflex, nice to see ur comment, but i have a small doubt-which one is abnormal-the post or the people it concerns?

hi bishwanath, welcome to my blog. ur's too wasa very smart blog, keep it up!

hi shankar, that was an interesting piece about ur friend. i agree, it is indeed a matter of personal preferences. freedom of choice. and i completely agree that as onlookers, we should not act as deciders upon what should a certain group of people do.

hi anu, whats up? having a good time, i suppose....

thanks a lot ashok.

hi sumit,

yes, it is a conservative society till now and maybe ti will take some more time for people to accept it. you might be amused that some ppl consider homosexuality as a solution for the growing population problem in india, if (God forbids) ppl accept it to be normal because of such reasons, it will be the most incredulous reason for which u accept this. any new phenomenon, if found acceptable at a certain point, should be for the right reasons, and not for lame excuses-thats what i believe.

hi hiren, u are right, these things cannot be imposed on someone.

hi 1.618, glad to have u back, so ur a bitsian? well, that was certainly an curious name for a blog.  

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HELLO AMRITA!!!!
Yesterday was your blogiversary and I see no cake around here!!!
;)
When it's the celebration???

Feliz aniversario!!
:)  

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opps!!! missed out that one Gonsings, thanks for reminding, i am so sorry my dear blog. it will be a belated b-day celebration, i promise.  

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hi gonsings, hope u enjoyed the cake. same for all my other fellow bloggers!!  

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hi varshu,

I was really happy to see ur comment on one of my posts after such a long period...yes, ur right, ur always pardoned, u know that. and i must thank u profusely for taking the pains to explain the matter in so much details. i am sure, all of us have a far clearer picture about this entire topic now. byways, everyone must have guessed that who topped that debate now.:)

BTW:do check ur blog...the post was really cute...:)  

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hey varshu,

now, now...to me ur are the oly winner in the debate...the fact that u had all ur heart, mind and science in the right place when everyone else had lost one or the other, is a very significant thing...whether u call that winner brave or not...i know there was only one brave and true winner in that debate, and i know its YOU!!!:)  

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